Marriage is about a life which full of tests and gratefulness!

By Saturday, July 28, 2018 ,

Assalammualaikum w.b.t

It was a great lesson to myself when this incident happened on Saturday about two weeks ago.  I hit the lorry just 10 steps away from our house. Pagi tu sepatutnya after ambil Hannah dari Cambridge Class we straight go to her school for chess class. Tapi ditakdirkan yang dia terlupa nak bawa chess set dia tuh so terpaksa singgah di rumah semula semata-mata untuk chess set.

Maybe dalam fikiran masa tuh nak cepat sampai since waktu tuh dah lambat and being me, memang tak suka part lambat-lambat. Plus ditambah dengan rasa geram dan tak puas hati sebab saya dah pesan banyak kali untuk bawa notes book and chess set tuh. Tapi tetap lupa juga. Adehhh...

And perhaps, ALLAH S.W.T nak tunjuk and gave me and my kids another lesson. That I must control my anger, stay focus while driving and be patient in whatever situation that you are dealing with.

Sekelip mata jer benda ni terjadi and memang rasa macam dalam mimpi. Sedar-sedar kereta dah terlanggar lori. Mujur tiada sebarang kecederaan yang berlaku. Turun dari kereta ..terus cakap sorry sangat pada uncle bawa lorry surat khabar lama tuh.

I admit that was my mistake and due to my neglection ..I hit his lorry. He seems ok and in fact he said...

Tak apa...yang penting you and  kids OK.

I lost my words and my hands are shivering. Panick attacked. Luckly, my Indian neighbour came and calmed us. He kindly asked me to take photo in different angles so that it can be helpful when I want to lodge a police report.

Pintu depan sebelah driver tak leh nak buka. And I have to use another door. I felt so bad to myself. I texted my husband and sent the photos.

Few minutes, he called than I chocked. I was actually lost my words and tried hard not to cry. But after I hung up. I burst out. 

Within 20 minutes, my neighbour came and she agreed to accompany me to the police station to lodge a report.Thanks so much Mr. Kumar and wife!

At this time I felt so relief and terus teringat surah Al-Inshirah. A beautiful surah and soothing ayah. 

Hereby is the ayah :

 5-6- فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا

For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.


إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا



Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.

The use of the words 'al-osar' and 'osar' imply that there is one difficulty, but many ease. There might be one challenge, but Allah (SWT) creates ease of different types in different ways. 

If we think about it, most of the times there is ease - we are not ill most of the times. When we have one problem, we have many sources of ease spontaneously, but we always focus on that one problem and don't mention all the blessings Allah has given.

In Makkah the Prophet (SAW) came across many problems, but he also had ease as there were people accepting Islam.


Alhamdulillah..Tetiba macam malu and insaf sebab dalam susah and serabut sampai sakit kepala tuh, ALLAH S.W.T mudahkan urusan. Ada sahabat yang baik ambil anak-anak di rumah dan bawa balik ke rumah dia. Prepared them a lunch. MashaALLAH..

After I have done with the police report and bring back my kids to home. I felt so down and frustated.

Coz I was thinking that...I was a burden to other people. To my husband especially. I did not contribute much to the family economy since I quit my job. 

Memula tu memang rasa sangat bersalah and tak sanggup nak face to face with my husband. I skipped my dinner at that night. 

 The question of "Why Me" then hit my mind.

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To my husband. I thanked you so much for being so kind towards me. Sebelum ni pun kind jugaklah. HAHAH!

Cuma pada saya, nak tengok sejauh mana 'kind' seseorang suami / isteri towards their spouse kena hadap dulu real problem or crisis dulu. Then you will know how you control the situation.

Men is always come with solution. While women come with emotion.

At this moment..I realized that. I don't really need a romantic husband. His kindness and patient during the hard time is far beyond my expectation. I am so grateful for having a husband just like him. Never I praised him in publicly like this.

Once, I was dreaming a super duper romantic husband. The one who make a suprise with 1000 white roses yaw! HAHAHAH...


Tapi konsep terima seadanya dan bersyukur itu adalah sangat PENTING. Kita tak boleh nak ubah seseorang. Maka, ubahlah expectation kita. InshaALLAH..bahagia nanti.

 
So what was the hikmah(s) that I got to share here. Well, at least this a note to myself.

1) We including our kids improved our communication. After what was happened, Hannah seems become more responsible.

2) I should more friendlier and kinder towards my neighbour regardless thier religion and race. Truly, ALLAH has mentioned in Al-Quran. Surah An-Nisa' ayah 36 :
rights of neighbors
“Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, the neighbor farther away, the companion at your side, the traveler, and those whom your right hands possess. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are self-deluding and boastful.” [Quran, 4: 36]
 3) Loves and cared our spouse more each day. We must try out best towards each other seems we don't know who will leave this dunya first.

4) Know how to control and manage your emotion very well

5) Don't blame yourself for what was happened. Things must happened for reasons. Kun fa ya kun. 

6) Always remember ALLAH S.W.T. During difficult time or vice versa.

7)Appreciate your friends, families and neighbours

8)Forgive and forget people for whatever reasons. Because ALLAH is Al-Ghaffur and At-Tawwab.
See you next month Mywhitevi!

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6 comments

  1. Allahu..mujur juga nany dan anak x apa2 kan,dan bertuah juga uncle tu seorang yg baik. Begitulah Allah sangat pemurah dan baik, Dia beri kita ujian Dia berikan penyelesaian, dihantar org2 yg baik disekeliling kita, masa susah mcm ni lah kita dpt tengok siapa sebenarnya yg dapat membantu..

    Betul kdg2 kita perempuan ni terlalu ikut emosi nak marah je rasa dgn anak2 kan..ustaz pesan mintalah pd Allah selalu moga kita diberikan hati yg sentiasa bersyukur,redha,ikhlas & merasa cukup

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  2. Alhamdulillah akak dan anak selamat. Alhamdulillah semua dipermudah. Memang normal kak bila kita dah tak menyumbang dalam ekonomi family akan terasa macam membebankan. Tapi Ana percaya ada hikmah dan rezeki yang lebih baik. Take care kak.

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  3. Allah..nany nasib xde apa2..nany u a strong mother n women..me.everything depends husband..i lagi careless n emotions sometimes..Alhamdulilah nany n kids xde apa2...take.care my dear..

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  4. alhamdulillah tak ada yang tercedera itulah paling penting. you have good neighbours kak bestnya.. dalam susah Allah hadirkan orang yang sudi membantu. semoga kita semua dilindungi olehNya.

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  5. Alhamdulillah sis dan anak tak cedera.. setiap yang berlaku pasti ada hikmahnya.. dan sha setuju dengan perkongsian sis terutama sekali pasal expectation kita terhadap pasangan dan hubungan sesama jiran..

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  6. moga dipermudahkan ye segala urusan, nany.
    aduhai.
    we are lucky dpt asben yg stay calm di saat wife nyer ketakutan :)
    hi hi hi and when it comes to kereta, aida sgt gabra if apa2 berlaku.
    otomatik jadi tak keruan :)

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